What The Hell Was He Thinking!

I wonder what has come over our society these days. Being a muslim community we condone polygamy as we feel we have no right to questions the laws of the religion (we as women). We cannot tell our men to be faithful as it is their birth given right to be unfaithful (if they wish to stray) if they wish to fall in love again with another woman and marry her. We would close one eye if that person is our brother, our uncle, our friend until one day that person is our husbands, we have given up our voices so if one day that happens to us the others will close their eyes on us too. I read something appalling recently in the newspaper. A woman’s husband was caught in the state of Khalwat with another woman and the latter’s father made a press statement that he willingly accept this man (who is still married) as his son-in-law. All this said without considering the man’s wife and children’s feelings. Well hey, this is the time of survival of the fittest, or should I say survival of the prettiest, or youngest, or sexiest or what-ever-est. We love any man who has sexual urges and we don’t give a damn about whether or not he has a family of his own. What do we care? Only our own blood! As long as my daughter is happy, why must I care about his wife and children? His wife and kids are his concern and not mine, he said. I only want my daughter to be happy, (so she must get whatever she wants?) How convenient for a loving father to say such things unless of course the table turns. I’m sure he has a lot to say if his daughter is the wife whose husband is caught berkhalwat. But in retrospection, how did we get to this point? How do we as a society become so insensitive to women and children?

The children have lost their daddy because he wants to get into another woman’s pants, and he could say I have no comment about them? What kind of a person is this guy? I wish that one day he will be brought to look into their eyes and say those words again. I wish that he will see them knowing they are no longer important in their daddy’s life. I wish that he will witness all the pain he has somehow allowed to happen. I wish one day he will see. That is when I hope that he would be speechless enough to even mouth the words I HAVE NO COMMENT!

I dedicate this entry to Abdul Aziz Muhammad! And to those around him who closed their eyes on our mother.